Members in webcam chats. Personal experience of a web model.

Members are users of webcam sites who pay or do not pay. But they sit, watch and communicate with the models. In other words, these are all those people who are in your user list during your broadcast.

When you type the word “member” into Google Translate, you get the word “member” – member, participant, not part of the body. In Google, it is better to use obscenities so that the translator does not mislead you.

Members on all platforms differ from each other, plus or minus. And each model will have a different opinion about this or that public. Therefore, listen, but do not take everything at face value.

For example, for me the most solvent members are on chaturbate. Other people I know consider stripchat to be a more profitable site. And there is no use arguing here, because everyone is lucky differently.

But all the members have one thing in common - they are people too, and not just money bags. If you treat them with contempt and hate everyone, but continue to surf the webcam, then explain the logic? They feel everything and see all your emotions, no matter how obvious it may sound.

If you are not a particularly tolerant person, then it will be difficult for you. Because on such sites the audience is very diverse with the most unusual, at first glance, fetishes. No one will force you to do or look at anything - you decide for yourself what is acceptable to you and what is not. But you shouldn’t be rude to people with oddities. If their requests sound wild to you, then it is better to gently say that you are not interested. And under no circumstances should you laugh at them. Users come to webcam sites and try to find a person who will make their fantasies come true right here and now live.

I came across people who liked to talk about sex with animals, and men who wanted to play father and daughter, someone who wanted to be looked at while he penetrated his anus or inserted some kind of tube into the urethra. The most unpleasant requests come from coprofilers. And one of the harmless requests from urinophiles is that they just need to urinate on camera. Usually, this is disguised as squirting. Because on many sites the display of such secretions is prohibited.

How to act in such situations? If they write to you in a personal message with a similar request, just politely refuse and do not try to convince or impose moral standards on a person. Why do you need it? For example, he came online to make his wishes come true. Be thankful that he doesn’t walk down the street looking for little girls (we’re talking about model lovers who specifically target minors).

You can refuse the conversation if you are offered to simply discuss it verbally, or the member wants you to stick foreign objects into yourself - you can also just say no and that’s it. You won’t be forced to watch their webcam as they do something unpleasant.

There are models who will grab any money, look at and do everything. That’s the beauty of it – you always have the last word. Even if a member has already entered your room and chosen you, this does not mean that you chose him :) keep this thought in your head.

Communication with members

During the broadcast, you either communicate with them in the general chat or in private. In the future, learn to set your own priorities. They are influenced by many factors:

• A solvent member writes specifically in a personal message, and you have to always be at the keyboard. But in the general chat everyone is silent, and you have time to be distracted by communicating in private messages.

• One paying member writes to you in a general chat, and another in a private message, what should you do? If your show is in full swing and you feel this fire, tokens are flying, then do not be distracted by the keyboard if possible. Communicate by voice and say that: “like this and that, I’m too busy and excited to interrupt everything and answer in a private message.” Politely warn that you can answer only after the show.

• You can actively conduct private conversations when you are tired after the show and there is a lull in the general chat. Or this person leaves a really good amount of tokens in your room and is worthy of your attention.

Looking at other top models helps you become more relaxed in your communication. Don't neglect this, especially if you've just started working! Top site leaders are usually found at the very beginning of the list of models or at the top of the page, depending on the navigation on the site. But these are always the first rooms that are visible when the site opens.

Observe who dresses how, how they decorate the workroom, what angles they choose, how they move the camera, who has what hairstyle and makeup, sex toys. And especially – listen. Don't sit in the room of girls who are dumb as fish. Watch the broadcast where the girl is bright and sociable. Listening skills can be trained well if you read her chat and listen to how she responds to members and what emotions she shows.

Yes, even how someone groans from tokens (if there is an interactive toy) is also useful to listen to. Because I understand that it is not always clear how loudly or not loudly you need to make sounds when you see tokens. Someone generally just shows emotions and breathes languidly. In this regard, you also need to test the waters between what you like best and what kind of response comes from the audience.

The most important thing is to be sincere with your audience who is sitting in your room. If they feel that you are really interested in how they spent their workday or weekend, they will definitely remember you and want to come back.

A big misconception of all new models is to think that everyone there only talks about sex and strange fetishes. No, it’s not just boys sitting there. Among the users of webcam sites there are a lot of serious men who can afford to leave at least $100 on the site every day - is it really possible to discuss only sex with them?

Members often make good friends within the site. They don't try to pry into your personal life and find out more than is allowed. But they are always there and ready to support you in difficult life situations. And not only with tokens, but also with advice or simply listening.

Therefore, you don’t need to think that only perverts sit on webcam sites. No, they are not alone there :) Over the 4 years of work, I have met a lot of smart and interesting people, and I still don’t work full time. I take a lot of breaks, so I even consider myself an anti-example, who was still re-registering... But this is not very good and a lot of audience is lost.

Don't fall in love with members

I once met a guy a little older than me, who began to communicate with me not as a model, but as a girl. It’s like we’re on a dating site, where all this easy and awkward flirting is inherent. He was very funny and charismatic. I became imbued with sympathy for him.

A young foreigner, a musician, also leaves me tokens, plus he’s cute (shared his personal Instagram with me). In general, what else could a girl from the provinces dream of? I thought, living abroad)) Perhaps, if I didn’t have a boyfriend at that time, I could even fall in love (he was French, and I have a weakness for them). But I was in a relationship, so I decided to just stop communicating with him. Because I didn’t want to take sin on my soul, I had already stopped considering him as just a member.

On the Internet you can find a couple of stories where the model even married a member (I know such people in Russia), they have a child and they are happy. I didn’t try to find a similar story with foreigners, but perhaps there are some.

It is important to be able to separate your webcam work and your personal life. When closing the broadcast, you must return to your real world. Because even if a user showers you with thousands of tokens and swears his love, you don’t really know each other. He fell in love with your image, which you act out every time in front of the camera.

Yes, here you need to be the best version of yourself, to the maximum! Then this will begin to affect you as an individual (your self-esteem will increase and you will be more confident). It will also pump up your sexuality perfectly (guys notice, verified). The main thing is to remember to turn off the model at the same time you turn off your broadcast.

You can and should be friends with members

This happened to me twice. I broke the heart of one because he fell in love with me, but I didn’t reciprocate (I didn’t want to go to America with him). Then our cheerful communication simply came to naught. And we are still on cordial terms with the other one. He is an adult man from the Netherlands. I don’t know his name or what he looks like, but he is 40+ years old and he is a very wise and interesting conversationalist. We don't talk about sex at all. I like to discuss politics, social life, other members and models with him. With all this, he also leaves me tokens.

Beggars

Asking someone to do something without a single cent, or sending you a couple of tokens and asking them to take off their bra is, of course, bad manners. Especially from non-white users (who supposedly have money in their accounts). Everything is clear with black/gray members. With them, on the contrary, you are surprised when you come across someone normal and adequate in communication. Models often ignore messages from such visitors or do not allow them to chat at all. This is, of course, everyone's business. But if you have just started working, I advise you not to block them in the general chat.

Firstly, they talk a lot, which can work to your advantage. You can use them as a communication tool to show that you are not mute and can speak. Other members will see this and want to get to know you better - which is definitely a plus!

Secondly, even among black/gray users there may be someone who will buy their first tokens just for your sake. This has happened to me a couple of times - such a gesture is really nice! Even if it wasn't his first purchase.

Therefore, consider members without tokens as your potential clients! It will never be superfluous. You can even become so friendly with someone in a general chat that they will only come to you and no one else. Loyal fans are always a joy, unless, of course, they spam nonsense in the chat).

For such cases, it is best to write down in your profile the rules for communicating with you in a general chat and/or personal message. In order to somehow appeal to the stupid and strange behavior of users in the chat.

How to respond to beggars?

You can start chatting with him playfully, hoping that he actually has tokens and will give them to you (if he is colored). Or you can poke your nose into the menu type and tell/write in plain text what and how much it costs. It all depends on how you feel about it: do you like to play and flirt with them or do you take a businesslike approach to it.

If a gray/black user writes something like this, you can simply ignore and not pay attention to him. Or turn on the bitch and ask him to top up his balance.

In general, spam from gray members is both a headache and the presence of at least some movement in the chat. Especially when, in the midst of the show, they actively start spamming some nonsense. If you have moderators in the room, they will, of course, clean it all up. What if they don't exist? Ignore or personally prohibit each spammer from leaving messages in the chat (you can prohibit all gray ones from writing at once in the settings, or click only on spammers and block a specific person).

About moderators

Almost every site has the ability to appoint a user as your chat moderator. And depending on the site, he will be awarded certain privileges. From the standard: they will be able to regulate chat communication by blocking unwanted spammers.

Moderators are usually appointed as “friends” within the site. That is, those who often hang out in your room, actively communicate in PUBLIC CHAT (not in private messages, those who communicate mainly in private messages will not be good moderators for you), also leaves you tokens, supports you and your conversation. In general, the ideal moderator will help ensure that the room is not quiet and that there is always some kind of movement: communication, tokens or shows. He will be motivated to ensure that the model and everyone in the room have fun. This, for me personally, is the ideal room moderator.

How to start a dialogue

If your whole life is focused on work, home, walking to the store and back. And the only interesting thing you have is your cat. You are not interested in what is happening in the world. And the range of topics that you can support is limited to food, clothes and cosmetics - it will be difficult for you to make “friends” on the site or even just chat with them. However, if you can talk about sex freely or have mastered Dirty Talk, that's already something! – You can work with this.

Those who like to listen to music, watch TV series or films, read books can create a good dialogue out of this. For example, start your broadcast by setting a topic for discussion about a new series. Maybe you discovered an interesting musical group, read an entertaining book and want to discuss it or at least share your thoughts? You can start from this already :)

And if you travel and follow world news, you have no chance of sitting in a boring room. The main thing, of course, is not to be shy about speaking and your level of English should be decent.

About English

Four years ago I went on a webcam with high school knowledge of English and for the first six months I was generally afraid to open my mouth. I was just typing. But then there was five times less competition.

Then I began to break down internal barriers, try to at least say hello and answer super banal questions. It was difficult, I was wildly shy, but I kept trying. After the first six months of work, I was already able to learn many slang expressions and abbreviations.

Feel free to write to members that you don’t understand some abbreviation. It’s not difficult for them to explain, and they will be happy to write it to you in full or even send you a link to the Urban Dictionary (this happened to me often), which is very cool.

After another couple of months, I signed up for an English tutor on Skype. We studied for about six months and my level of English simply skyrocketed compared to what it was before. This knowledge will never be superfluous and thanks to my classes, I feel confident in myself and abroad. Yes, I make mistakes and don’t understand a lot. But now I’m not ashamed of it, and I try to ask you to explain it to me in simpler language. I boldly communicate with an accent, because it is part of me. And for some it’s even sexy :) so don’t worry!

Now there are many useful translators for the browser (Imtranslator) and for the computer (Qtranslator). In tandem, these are ideal assistants if you have problems with English.

I will not tire of repeating that it is useful to watch/listen to other models - it helps to pick out useful expressions and words. When they write to you an unfamiliar word that even your translator doesn’t know, search in Google images or ask the member directly. Don't be ashamed that you don't know something. People who ask questions seem more interested. And they develop faster in any area.